This post by Melinda Bunyard was originally published on the former Arkansas Ministers’ Wives blog on June 1, 2010.
I never dreamed being a Pastor’s wife would be so demanding. It seems that one busy day rolls into another and before I know it, it’s Sunday again. I can’t remember a time in my life when it has required more discipline to stay consistent in personal Bible study and prayer. And I can’t remember a time when it was more crucial. I ran across a familiar story recently in my Bible reading that the Holy Spirit is using in my life in a whole new way.
It is the story of Jesus’ visit to Martha’s house found in Luke 10: 38-42. You know, the one where she complains that Mary isn’t helping her in her hostessing efforts. Both women were friends of Jesus and desired to please Him. They just had very different ideas of what it looked like to have Jesus in your home. Martha was busy cooking, preparing, and serving. She wanted everything to be just right. After all, Jesus had come for dinner. The Bible says, “She was distracted.” Before long, she ran out of energy and saw that she was not going to reach the high standard of hostessing she had placed on herself, so what did she decide to do? She whined to the person she believed could help her. Mary, on the other hand, placed herself at the feet of Jesus. She was relaxing and listening to all that He had to say. There she was, listening, worshiping, and resting when along came Martha to tattle.
I have always focused on the roles of Mary and Martha in this passage. Women could debate the merits of both women. Those for Martha would argue that the work had to be done. If you don’t cook and serve, no one will eat. Those for Mary might say Mary was definitely right. If Jesus is in your home, nothing else would matter and you should definitely sit at his feet.
As I read it this time, the Holy Spirit seemed to place the spotlight not on Mary or Martha, but on Jesus’ role in the passage. His words resonated in my mind and heart. He replied to Martha’s complaint by saying, “But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken from her.” ONE THING. Those were powerful words considering the context. Martha was busy doing a million things. Yet, Jesus said only one thing is needed.
He knows we have lives to live. He understands the demands placed on us as women. And it’s not that He doesn’t want us to do those things and do them well. But He’s saying the one thing, the main thing, the first thing we need to be concerned about is our relationship with Him and spending time sitting at His feet and listening to His word.
Martha was concerned with being a great hostess while Mary was concerned with being a great disciple. Somehow she understood that nothing else mattered if she didn’t first get that right.
I want to be great at what I do: mom, wife, friend, pastor’s wife. But that will never happen until I am great at spending time with Jesus. Why? Because in Him I have strength, hope, peace and wisdom. I don’t have that within myself. It has to come from God, the author and finisher of my faith. Before I can be great at anything else, I have to be great at spending time with Him.