Here are some fun tips for you to ponder as ministers’ wives. Let me know what you think about them or if you have a few more tips to share, leave them in the comment section.
*Find someone you can talk to–either another staff wife or a friend outside the church, preferably not in your area. (You do not want to bad mouth your church to someone from another church in your area.) Sometimes you need someone to VENT to especially when your children are driving you nuts.
*Learn to say NO!!! Only be involved in what God is leading you to do and what you feel passionate about.
*Find a prayer partner. It does not have to be the same person you confide in but just someone you can pray with on a regular basis. Requests do not always have to be specific.
*Be a servant. “A good minister’s wife needs to get in there and work! She should not sit back on her ‘throne’ so to speak, and expect to be waited on.” It is important that ministers’ wives use her unique gifts and skills to minister in the church.
*A fellow pastor’s wife shares this per Mrs. Adrian Rogers: “Treat your husband like a king and he will treat you like a queen.” You are your husband’s biggest supporter (cheerleader). Mrs. Rogers also stated that “we should never expect our husbands to meet all our needs. Expect God to meet them as stated in Phil. 4:19, so when your husband meets a need it is icing on the cake.”
*Do not overload yourself on church responsibilities. Your family needs you too.
*Sit in different places in the worship service so you can get to know more ladies. This tip may help keep you from being accused of having “favorite friends” even though we all have them in the church. (A bit of humor: by sitting in different areas of the service, if you get tired of hearing your husband’s same sermon you can visit the church down the street and no one will miss you because no one knows where you sit.)
*Become friends with the “silent people.” These are people who are quiet and usually stay in the background. They need a friend and will usually be loyal friends.
*Take care of yourself emotionally and physically. Find things to do that you enjoy doing and will help you distance yourself from your church, your work, and the pressures of your family. (Ex. read, sew, take walks)
*A bit of humor: When someone is sharing “stuff” with you and you don’t want to let them know that you know more about the situation than they do, just say “Really?” or “I didn’t realize that.” These simple statements will keep you out of hot water.
*Be yourself. It is okay for the people to see you laugh, cry, wear jeans and sweats, act goofy, etc. We ARE human with a wide range of emotions. We are UNIQUE by God’s design.